I will not cover up when breastfeeding

I think she needs a feed, mummy – JD, 4

As you probably know, I do a lot of reviews on this blog, which also means I get sent a lot of pitches, and not all of them are appropriate.

Take the email that said, “what better way to celebrate Mother’s Day than by being so drunk you can’t remember it?!” – it was for cocktails, I kind of take the whole mothering a newborn thing rather seriously so, y’know, not for me. I laughed and hit delete.

But some pitches make me really sad. In particular, pitches for products that promise to help hide breastfeeding. I don’t mean those products that help you cover up your deflated belly so that you feel more confident – all power to them – I mean those products that try to get you and your baby to cover up entirely.

Today I was sent images of a giant apron, so huge it basically covers you from neck to knee and you put your baby underneath it.

Babies need eye contact. Why should I put a barrier between us? Babies overheat. Why should I tuck them under cloth and dangerously cover their faces? Babies are human beings. Why should the sight of them eating be considered a source of shame?

Let’s get one thing absolutely straight: breastfeeding is eating. It’s not going to the toilet. It’s not sex. If you don’t like it, you’re a numpty.

I close my mouth when I chew, I put my hand to my mouth when I cough, I lift the material of my top discreetly when I breastfeed, but if you can see a bit of boob, or hear a slurp, that’s part of life. Get over it. And why are you staring anyway?!

Unless the day comes when we all start eating in individual cubicles in restaurants to hide the shame of mastication, you’ll never see me breastfeeding under a cape.

19/52: metamorphosis

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I’m a Sterimar Baby Mummy Ambassador

And then it goes tshhhhhhh and all the snot comes out! – JD, 4

Several months go, I was sent a Stérimar Baby natural seawater base nasal spray for review, which I duly stored in the cupboard ready for when Little Miss J faced her first cold.

With JD regularly attending that little germ factory we call preschool, it wasn’t long before he brought home a nice fresh cold and Little Miss J became all red eyes and snotty nose. It’s heart breaking seeing a baby not able to feed properly and Stérimar Baby did the job of clearing her nose brilliantly – you can read my full review here.

Fast forward a few months and we’ve used Stérimar regularly – it not only clears her nasal passages, it keeps them clean and stops the infection getting as nasty as it otherwise might. And a big bonus is that it’s totally natural, so you can use it as much as you like without fear of overdose.

I’m a Sterimar Baby Mummy Ambassador

I use the adult version for myself and have raved about it at nursery and baby group, so when Stérimar asked me to work with them as an ambassador, sharing the benefits of the nasal spray with other mums, I was happy to go ahead.

One of the main things I’ll be doing as an ambassador is spending time on the new Stérimar Baby Facebook Page with experts and other mums, talking through our experiences and sharing thoughts on all things parenting related.

A chance to win £500

To kick off the launch of the new Facebook page, Stérimar Baby is running a ‘Cutest Little Nose’ photo competition.

To enter, visit the Stérimar Baby Facebook Page, click on the Cutest Little Nose app and submit a photo of your little one being super cute – I know, I know, how are you going to choose one photo?

You’ve got until 20th June 2012, after which, the cutest photo (as judged by Stérimar) will be chosen as the winner and the ‘most creative’ photo will win a runner up prize of Stérimar Baby products. Good luck!

Disclosure: I have received a fee for working with Sterimar as an Mummy Ambassador. As always, all content is 100% honest and in my own words.

16/52: busy being happy (and #ISpy something beginning with G)


She’s zero and a half – JD, 4

I’ve been trying to post a photo each week to represent the key events of the week – it’s called Project 52. But last week, for the first time this year, I didn’t post a photo. I was busy with work, housework, BlogCamp and celebrating Little Miss J turning six months.

So, never one to admit defeat, I’m doing it late and showing off this shot of Little Miss J playing on her play mat.

If you’re a regular reader, you’ll know that Little Miss J struggled with weight and growth issues in her first few months, worrying us all sick. Now she’s a chubby, chatty, healthy little lady (touch wood) and I couldn’t be happier.

And just for fun, can you spot something beginning with G…?

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14/52: the simple things

I love my sister – JD, 4

Eating food, standing up, travelling from one point to another. Tiny, insignificant occurrences for an adult. Momentous achievements for a baby.

This week, our little girl had started eating a daily lunchtime meal of pureed fruit, milk and powdered rice. She has also taken to pulling herself to standing at every opportunity, and made her first snuffling, shuffling movements across the sofa. It’s official, she is on the move.

(The outfit in the pic above was sent to us for review by Vertbaudet – cute huh?)

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NHS cystic fibrosis screening error – what’s your take?

You may remember [...] the midwife pricked your baby’s heel [...] as part of regular on-going health checks it was found that a new machine used to test for cystic fibrosis gave an inaccurate result in a very small number of samples – NHS East Midlands

I got a letter today to say that the heel prick test Little Miss J had for cystic fibrosis was among a batch that threw up some inaccurate results. It says I needn’t worry if Little Miss J is healthy and since I genuinely don’t have any major concerns about her health, I’m not particularly worried.

Nevertheless, it’s unsettling letter to receive and it got me thinking…

At first, the least rational part of my brain thought, “Eek!” and I had to have a quick read up on the symptoms. She’s had a series of bad colds but that also means she’s had her chest listened to several times – the chances of three GPs missing something as serious as CF seem hugely unlikely.

So then I thought, “Tut! If there’s nothing to worry about and the risks are small, why worry me with a letter? I would have preferred to carried on in blissful ignorance rather than have a niggling worry.”

But then the sensible part of my brain kicked in and I realised I should be really encouraged by the letter. It means that the NHS are doing the right thing. It may have been a worrying letter to receive, but if the NHS simply sat on the error and a child with the condition wasn’t treated promptly and properly as a result, that would be far worse and there would be an outcry.

The quality checks the NHS have in place are absolutely vital to ensuring safety and I wouldn’t want that to change. It just seems that when an error occurs (this particular error was technical, not human) the NHS can’t really keep everyone happy but they can put safety first, so although it’s not the letter I wanted to get this morning, I’m glad I got it all the same.

What do you think? Would a letter like this worry you? Could the NHS do anything differently?

And would you take your child to be re-tested, just for peace of mind? On that part, I’m undecided.

Em&Lu circus print baby vest

An elephant on a ball?! – JD, 4

A quick one today to show you this rather beautiful, 100% cotton vest from Em&Lu.

It has quirky, hand-drawn illustrations and an old-fashioned feel to it, which I love and although the trim is blue, I think the design works for boys and girls.

The vest has nickel-free poppers, is machine washable and retails at £14. It certainly looks cute on Little Miss J and I’m tempted by the matching bib, toweling blanket and dress.

What do you think?

Disclosure: I was sent the Em&Lu circus print vest for review. No payment was received and all reviews are 100% honest.

Saturday is caption day

Peekaboo!

Little Miss J has really come into her own in the last week. She’s playing. She’s grasping and shaking toys. She’s blowing raspberries. She’s giggling. She’s so much fun. But what’s going on here?

Drop a caption in the comments and then hit the button below for more SatCappery.

12/52: A triumph

Baby growth curve story

Oh my goodness, look at her lovely legs! – grandma (my mum)

These gorgeous, slightly chubby little legs are Little Miss J’s. See? Chub! I can’t tell you how happy that makes me.

Four weeks ago, I was walking home from the clinic sobbing, having been told that she had to start gaining weight or we’d be looking at hospitalisation.

Born bang on the 25th percentile line, her weight had plateaued at eight weeks and stayed there, hardly moving for 10 weeks as she fell way below the 0.4th percentile line.

For a long time we tried unsuccessfully to get her to accept formula tops ups. But faced with the threat of being admitted, she finally, miraculously started drinking.

Today, at 22 weeks I’m happy to report that she has gained a whopping 50% of her body weight (yes, 50% of her body weight in four weeks!) and has shot through the growth curves, landing triumphantly on the 25th percentile line once again, right where she should be.

Hurray for Little Miss J!

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Faecal incontinence? Let’s put on a show

Many people suffer in silence, and those brave enough to confide in their doctors often fare little better – Professor Alastair Forbes

As a blogger, I get all sorts of pitches from PRs – some great, some zany, some totally irrelevant. Sometimes us mummy bloggers get pitched things that embarrass us, or make us giggle. Sex toys and Mooncups, for example – we giggle, we laugh, some of us review them. It’s all good.

Occasionally, I get an email about an event – a children’s toy fayre, a beauty expo perhaps. Never before though, have I had an email that pitches a stage show about faecal incontinence.

Yup, when you can’t control your bowel movements. A play. About that.

So why am I writing about it? I’m writing about it because although I don’t suffer from it, I do suffer from Irritable Bowel Syndrome, and I know that anything to do with that area can be embarrassing for people – sometimes so embarrassing that they don’t seek help, and that’s no good at all.

It turns out that one in one hundred people will suffer from faecal incontinence at some point in their lives, and one of the groups most likely to be affected are new mothers, but most don’t feel comfortable talking about it, even to their own doctors, which means they suffer for far longer than they need to.

Professor Alastair Forbes from the Gastroenterology team at University College Hospital London says:

“It is clear that many people suffer in silence, and those brave enough to confide in their doctors often fare little better, as there is also medical ignorance of the condition, it’s evaluation and treatment options. The first step to improving management of faecal incontinence is its wider recognition and the willingness of doctors and nurses to engage positively with the patient”

Incontinental

Multi-award winning playmaker Kazuko Hohki and her company have set about trying to break the taboo by putting on an ‘incontinental cabaret’ of stories, situations, song, science and a spot of ballroom dancing in a show about control and what it means to lose it.

It’s created and performed in collaboration with Professor Forbes, Lewis Barfoot, Colin Carmichael, Andy Cox and Max Hallett, and is supported by an Arts Award from the Wellcome Trust.

Hohki says:

“Making this show was an amazing experience for me. A human being’s most fundamental activity can become a problem, and such secrecy and fear arise that people are prevented from enjoying a normal life, and become isolated. However, if people can at least talk about it, the situation might change slightly. By means of this show, I’m hoping this slight shift might happen”

Performances will take place at  at Camden People’s Theatre, London (Wednesday 21 & Thursday 22 March) as part of the Sprint festival and University College Hospital, London (Friday 23 March) – contact jo@kazukohohki.com or call 07843 274684 for more info.