Please write any birth preferences you may have – NHS Maternity Records
I’ve been persuaded to write my birth plan. I’ll be 37 weeks pregnant on Friday so I guess it’s now or never.
Why did I need persuading? Well my first labour wasn’t a pleasant experience. It wasn’t at the hospital where I’d planned to have JD and it was dirty and understaffed. Nevertheless, I took a beautiful baby boy home, so since then I’ve figured it may as well be left to chance.
Lately though, the ‘birth plan’ pages in my maternity notes have been looking at me accusingly, so I asked around on Twitter for others to share their thoughts (big thanks in particular to @zsk @doc1online and @JanMinihane).
The consensus was that the midwives won’t have time to read it and things probably won’t go entirely to plan, but it’s useful to have everything written down in one place, if only to help focus your mind on what you want, and as a reference for your panicking partner if he’s asked to make any decisions ;)
So here’s mine…
Support in labour?
- I’d like my husband, Mark to be there
- If something goes wrong, or I get scared, I know from last time that I’ll want my mum there too
What will I bring with me?
- My hospital bag is already packed with clothes, toiletries, decaf tea bags, soya milk and a Kindle for me, plus her first outfit, blankets and some changing kit
- I’m really not fussed about music, the pain will be quite enough to think about
Things I’ll do to cope / relax?
- I’ve been a bit lax – no NCT classes. I just want my husband there, that will keep me calm
- To be allowed to walk around a lot
- Access to a bath would be good – splashing water over my stomach really helped with the contractions last time
- Tried TENS last time – hated it
- No pethidine / diamorphine / epidural
- Gas and air will be very welcome once we get to the pushing stage
After the birth?
- Managed third stage
- Delivered on to my stomach
- Mark to cut the cord
- Discover the sex ourselves (Mark will probably tell me)
- Skin-to-skin contact
- Feed her straight away
- Mark to dress her after first feed
- Happy for baby to have Vitamin K injection
- I will need an Anti D injection
If things progress slowly / there’s a problem?
- Play it by ear – I’d prefer to be induced / waters broken / cesarean only as a last resort
So, what do you think? Is a birth plan essential prep or wishful thinking? Have you written / did you write yours?